Webcam sex...is it really that great?

Ok guys...the nice thing about being single and home alone, is that we have free reign to look however we want to. It's hard being a girl--it takes a lot of work to even look 'business causal' *let alone* all dolled up for a night out.

Hanging out by ourselves on a Saturday night? That means it's a night off from the pre-date work-up we go through--no make-upo, gentlemeno--

So tonight I was hanging out by myself...just resting from all of the holiday commotion stuff (which should be a blog on to itself--'how to get through the holidays and come out of it sane', though I can't write that one because I haven't quite figured it out yet),

so I was resting, enjoying the pre-New Year's peace,

when I got an IM from a guy I went out on a date with a couple of weeks ago...totally addicted to his work, which is okay because it means he won't get too close too fast, kind of an asshole (but I like the fact when I told him that to his face, he agreed), and is great in the sack--

He IM's me tonight, and then wanted to do the Webcam f*** thing...

Is it really that great??

I told him no, of course...and the reason why--I was in position to be seen by anyone other than myself (and my maker)...and definitely *not* in the mood to get all made up for 15 minutes of visual masterbation, either.

And he was upset about it!

Guys--when you ask a woman to webcam, it's kind of like asking her out on a date--whether or not you're admitting it to yourself, you're evaluating her, so it's important that she looks the best she can--and that ain't easy :)

Webcaming should be saved for at least after the relationship has gotten a little serious--you guys have to earn it--

Before then, we deserve a dinner for all the work we go through to get ready--and movie, too :)

Mr. Unibrow: Men need to groom too

I met a prospective at lunch today--this one I was kind of excited about--nice witty e-mails, lots of cutesy smiley faces while discovering a shared a love for things like sushi (this is Los Angeles :), so I was cautiously optimistic when I was woke up this morning.

I got there slightly late (which is actually early in Teddy time), and so he was already seated at the table when I arrived. As I was being escorted by the hostess down the aisle, in the distance I noticed this man sitting nervously at the table with an oh-oh...with a big unibrow!! Not a subtle 'I forgot to pluck my eyebrows this morning' kind of a unibrow, but a full blown "I've spent my entire life growing this lawn across my face!" kind of unibrow.

Okay ladies. We can all agree personal grooming is essential. Last I checked, even chimps groom themselves, and with mannis and pedis we've just taken it to the next evolutionary level. But men? They need to groom too!

Needless to say the lunch was cut short with an 'emergency call from my client' kind of thing. Thankfully, he doesn't know that I don't have any clients. But after five bites of my not so good salad it was time for it to be over and then I was on my merry way.

Guys--you are *not* exempt from personal grooming. And that means shaving, plucking, and cutting and pasting where necessary.

The email game: Is there a human on the other side?

Sometimes I wonder whose sending me these emails of these gorgeous men with flattering "I want you" notices in my inbox. In fact, it's amazing how many of these I get from the dating websites I haven't paid money to sign with yet. Like all of them. The less money I spend, the more cute guys I get contacting me. I spend nothing, and I get *at least* five in my inbox a day! And rich, too!

Ughhh!!! And they think we're high maintenance?!!

I figured I havvvee to start letting off steam so I started this blog--it's so ROUGH being single in the current dating world we live in--there are simply too many choices!! I decided I was about to explode if I don't start letting some of this out.

[Plus it's just shamelessly fun to kiss and tell, though I promise no names--just initials *wink*.]